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    Help! I’m a Bridesmaid! How to be the best bridesmaid ever

    So your best friend just got engaged and she’s asked you to be a bridesmaid. Yay! Well…maybe. Being a bridesmaid is exciting and fun, but it can also be stressful and a little overwhelming, especially if you aren’t sure what your responsibilities are. To give you some idea of what it’s all about, here are six things you’ll probably need to do as a bridesmaid. We have also added six ways you can go the extra mile and  learn how to be the best bridesmaid ever!

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    Help! I’m a Bridesmaid! How to be the best bridesmaid ever

    1. Ask the bride!

    This isn’t just a disclaimer, it is fundamental! Ask the bride what she expects from you as a bridesmaid. Make sure she knows that she can contact you for help with anything. Try to get an understanding of what she has in mind first so you can adjust your expectations. In some cases it might be a good idea to find this out before agreeing to be a bridesmaid, to ensure you have the time and money to dedicate to the task.

    Be the best:

    At the start of wedding planning, your friend might not even know where to start with wedding planning or what it is she expects or needs from you! Help out by doing your own research first (reading this article is a great start!) and give her some concrete examples of things you are able to help with. Try offering your email address and phone number as the RSVP details on her engagement party invitations so guests can contact you about whether they’ll be attending or not. This will save her having to deal with that. Making an offer like this (or something similar) shows that you are on board and thinking about what needs to be done. Let her know that you understand the commitment is more than just showing up to the wedding in a pretty dress.

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    2. Buy the bridesmaid dress

    As a bridesmaid, you will likely be expected to pay for your bridesmaid dress, shoes, jewellery, and maybe even your hair and makeup appointments on the day. While some brides are extra generous and will shout you for some of these things, you should definitely set aside a little cash for it. Chat with your bride about what she has in mind so you can determine the price range to be prepared for, and then be ready to pay when the time comes.

    Be the best:

    Be prepared to help the bride choose bridesmaid dresses and accessories, but be as accommodating as you can. Don’t make a fuss if you hate the dress or it isn’t your colour, and don’t try to make things about you. Give your honest input if it is asked for, but don’t make the bride’s job difficult! Planning a wedding is hard! The exception to this is if the bride is selecting a dress that is well outside a reasonable price range (eg. several hundred dollars for a dress might be excessive).. It is definitely acceptable to let her know you are going to have difficulty affording it, and let her decide whether to stick with it and make up the difference or find something else.

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    3. Go to everything

    One of the most important aspects of being a bridesmaid is offering support, and unless there is a very good reason (props to all you long-distance bridesmaids!), this requires you to actually show up! Find out key dates as far in advance as possible, and do what you can to be there for them. This includes the engagement party, the wedding (duh!), wedding rehearsal and other events. This applies most of all to the wedding, of course. Unless you are in hospital, incapacitated, there’s really no excuse for missing the wedding.

    Be the best:

    Take it upon yourself to be a sort of behind-the-scenes host when it comes to wedding-related events. Help the bride with the planning before the day. Get there early and help set up. Make sure there is enough food out and that everyone has a drink. Talk to the Aunty that’s sitting by herself and looks a little out of place. Hit the dance floor first to encourage others to get into it. Your energy and support will make all the difference and truly cement you as the best bridesmaid (and friend!) ever. Plus, it’s good practice for the wedding day, when you need to be the bride’s eyes and ears for problems so she can focus on enjoying herself.

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    4. Throw the bridal shower/hen party

    This one is a step above just showing up! The bridesmaids, led by the maid of honour, are usually expected to throw the pre-wedding party for the bride. Usually this is either a bridal shower or a hen party, depending on the preferences of the bride. Sometimes the bride wants both, in which case she will likely designate one to you. The bridesmaids are usually responsible for both the planning and the financing of the event, but this depends on the expectations of the bride.

    Be the best:  

    Know your friend and what makes her tick, and communicate with her about what she wants the party to be like. Don’t be that friend that invites strippers to the party with her religious family, or forgets to buy alcohol for the shower of a bride that loves to party. Remember that the party is for her, not for you, even though you are the one planning it. Try your best to make it a day that she will love! For best results run everything by her to make sure she likes the sound of it, but keep one or two meaningful surprises up your sleeve to really blow her away.

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    5. Help the bride with everything

    Okay, this might seem a little obvious, but this is the most important part of being a bridesmaid! Find out what your friend needs help with, and help her! You don’t actually need to help with everything, of course, but be willing to help with anything! This might mean taking responsibility for addressing wedding invitations, helping her choose wedding flowers, or listening to her rant about a disagreement with the groom. Be the person she can bounce ideas off or take along for a second opinion. This should pretty much be second nature if she’s your best friend, but it’s kind of official now, in your role as her bridesmaid.

    Be the best:

    Find out what is stressing the bride most and see if you can take it off her hands for her, or at least help her out. Is she freaking out about choosing the right photographer? Offer to do the research for her and come up with a few good options to make the choice more simple. Does she have to DIY bonbonniere for 200 guests, but she has no idea how to work a glue gun? Take some home with you to do while you watch Game of Thrones, or offer to come round and spend the day marathoning the craft.

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    6. Make a great speech

    If you’re the maid of honour, you get the pleasure of making a speech at the wedding reception. Usually this speech is focused on the bride, your friendship, and how happy you are for her to be marrying the love of her life. When you’re writing the speech, keep in mind that guests at the wedding will include the bride’s new in-laws, some of whom she will be meeting for the first time. There might also be other special guests, like her boss or an important client. Make sure the speech is appropriate, not embarrassing. This is absolutely not the time to roast your friend! Don’t hit the champagne before giving the speech, either. Be on your best behaviour, basically, and show your friend in a positive, loving light. Let everyone in the room know how much you adore her, and why.

    Be the best:

    After the wedding, give the bride a beautiful copy of the speech as a gift. It might be carefully handwritten or typed up, framed or on loose paper she can scrapbook or put away in a memory box. You could also include a favourite picture of the two of you, perhaps one taken at the wedding. This will be a great memento of the wedding day as well as of your friendship, and will remind the bride of all your support and love during the months of planning.
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    So now you know how to be the best bridesmaid ever. Wedding planning can be stressful, but it can also be a beautiful (and fun!) experience to go through with friends by your side. If you’ve had the honour of being asked to be a bridesmaid, throw yourself into it and take the opportunity to show your friend how much you love her in a whole host of practical ways. After this, you’re going to be friends for life.

    This was a guest post by Maddison Wallace from Paperlust Wedding Invitations. Maddison is head of content at Paperlust. She is a communications professional, postgrad student, part-time librarian, and occasional wedding photographer. She loves words and drinking cups of tea.

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